The Sexual Practices of Quodoushka

Based on ancient Mayan! Olmec! and Toltec teachings passed down by the Twisted Hair Nagual Elders of the Sweet Medicine Sundance Path! Quodoushka offers practical guidance on sex! intimacy! and relationships that bring the sacred back into lovemaking. Chapter 2 An Initiation into the World of Sexuality No matter how we are introduced to sex in our early years, our first sexual experiences leave an indelible mark on our character for years to come. The Keys to an Effective Sexual Education While it may not be feasible to turn back the clock to romanticize about how very ancient civilizations may have taught young people about sex, it is possible to practice the essential ingredients of a proper introduction to sexuality by way of initiation. An initiation should begin years before anything “sexual” occurs. It does not mean having early sex. In fact, an effective education emphasizes patience and proper discernment and should encourage safe exploration. Above all, it should instill a strong sense of self-worth, responsibility, and respect. To do this, we need careful guidance from someone who knows us well. Phoenix Fire Woman A Phoenix Fire Woman is a title given to a woman who is trained not only in the skills of lovemaking, but she is acknowledged as a Medicine Woman by the community for being a wise teacher and a consummate healer. The same is true for a Phoenix Fire Man. One of their roles is to ensure that young people are respectfully taught about how to use their sexual energy. This interview serves as a model for what an initiation with a Phoenix Fire Woman could be like. It speaks of the essential things a young man needs to learn and how he should be taught in order to become a mature and loving husband. Initiation with Phoenix Fire Woman Amara: Can you tell us how your training began? Adam: My education started when I was seven years old, learning about nature from my clan uncles, Neal Two Arrows and Edward Walking Bear. Amara: What kinds of things did you learn from them? Adam: They taught me that there was nothing I could perceive that was outside of me, but that it was a part of me only if I stayed connected to it. The most important thing was to stay connected to Spirit because this is the energy that created all the mineral, plant, animal, human, and spirit worlds. We never had any formal lessons on any of this. We went for walks, hunted and fished together, or hung out and talked. My real education wasn’t about facts; it was about noticing and learning from everything. Once you learn to be more observant, you can take that into being with a woman. You perceive differently, because a woman has minerals, water, warmth, and breath; she has the emotional, mental, physical, sexual, and spiritual worlds inside her. Amara: What were the most important things you learned from your clan uncles? Adam: To feel the cycles...